My Fiancé Cheated on Me and Expected Me to Keep His Baby
Behind their seemingly perfect relationship was a devastating betrayal that turned her world upside down. This is the story of how one woman dealt with heartbreak, lies, and the challenges of an unexpected pregnancy.
She shared her experience:
I don’t know where to start. Recently, my fiancé told me he had been cheating on me for over a year. We’ve been together for a total of 7 years.
When he confessed, he also said he didn’t want to continue our relationship, which broke my heart. We’ve been together since high school, so it hurt even more that he had his new girlfriend with him when he told me. It felt disrespectful that he brought her into the home we bought together.
As his birthday approached, I planned to tell him about my pregnancy. He always wanted a large family, ideally with five kids. While I wasn’t against having children, it wasn’t a strong desire of mine.
When he ended our relationship, I knew I didn’t want to continue with the pregnancy. I couldn’t imagine raising a child alone. Even though I have a stable job, some might think my choice is selfish, but I had to prioritize my own well-being.
I told him about the pregnancy when he broke up with me. His reaction showed some regret or something similar. He mentioned he was okay with shared custody, but I didn’t respond.
A few days later, I decided to have an abortion. I thought it was important to be honest with him and not give false hope, as I had no desire to see or speak to him again. When I texted him about my decision, he called me, questioning my decision and expressing disappointment: “Why would you do that??” He argued that I knew he wanted kids and should have discussed it earlier.
I feel conflicted about my choice. However, the thought of giving birth and overall having his baby makes me unhappy. I barely like kids and the thought of having one with someone who broke my heart is not helping. I’m feeling like a bad person now. He’s the only one to know about the abortion but not the pregnancy.
People offered their heartfelt support.
- “You have the right to choose what happens to your body. Your feelings are valid. Don’t let him manipulate you. Your decision was about your future and well-being. Focus on healing and moving forward.
- “I admire people like you. Often people get emotional and keep the pregnancy facing the co-parenting issue with an ex-spouse forever. You don’t deserve this. Hope you grow strong and wish you the best of luck.
- “Pregnancy and birth is not a walk in the park, especially in your circumstances. Please don’t let him make you feel guilty. If he hadn’t cheated on you, you would still be together and starting a family together. He is the one who messed this whole thing up.”