One of our readers, a 35-year-old woman, feels a strong need to protect her children from another woman. In her heartfelt letter, she shared her story, which truly sounded like a cry for help. The issue she raised is delicate for everyone involved. This concerned mother seeks our readers’ opinions on her situation, which involves her children and her ex-husband’s new wife. Here is her emotional account of the conflict.
Sarah and her husband, Mike, went through a very amicable divorce.
Sarah, 35, shared her deeply emotional and complex story with us. Her frustration and anxiety were evident in every word. She is torn by conflicting thoughts and is trying hard to avoid conflict. However, with her children’s safety and well-being at stake, she can’t ignore the issue any longer. Sarah is seeking our readers’ opinions to determine if she is justified in her decisions, or if she might be overreacting to what could be a harmless situation in her family.
The woman began her letter by saying, “My husband and I had been married for 13 years before we divorced 2 years ago. We have two kids, who’re 13 and 8 years old now. We split up in a very tolerant and mild way, without any scandals, mutual regrets and blames. Both Mike and I have been doing our best to help our kids come to terms with our divorce, we show them how we both love them and how we both still respect each other. We’re excellent friends with my ex, and everything between us has been perfect so far.”
Mike has a new wife, and Sarah was happy for him.
Sarah continued her story, explaining, “Last year, Mike remarried. His new wife, Emma, is a lovely young woman who clearly adores him. I learned about their relationship right from the beginning, and I was genuinely happy that Mike had found love again. It’s important to note that neither of us harbors any romantic feelings for each other, and there’s no jealousy from either side as we’ve both moved on and built new relationships with other people.”
“For me personally, the main concern has always been how our kids would communicate and get along with our new partners. Since Mike created a new family earlier than I did, his new wife became an object for my direct attention from the first moment when she met our kids. But I didn’t have reasons to worry, because Emma wanted to be friends with them, and she seemed to be doing her best to bond with the kids in the most cordial way possible. I didn’t object about their warm relationship, the kids were allowed to go to their place and stay there as long as they wanted. They all went on vacations together and spent nice time, which I thought was cool. Everything was fine, up until one day, when I made a shocking discovery about my ex’s new wife.”
It drove Sarah mad and anxious.
Sarah wrote, “Recently, I opened Facebook to check the profile of my oldest son. I then found Emma’s page and discovered that this woman has been continuously posting pictures of my children. This was more or less fine, but the posts are including their full names, pictures of their jerseys that reveal where we live and the worst of all is that she’s been tagging locations of where they are, constantly. She’s been posting all of that to her very public Facebook page.”
“I was raging after I discovered this appalling online behavior. Since then, I’ve asked her multiple times for this to stop. Emma always says it will, but I open it up and there are pictures of my 8-year-old daughter in a swimming suit, on her again very public page.”
Sarah is deeply desperate about the entire situation.
Sarah expressed, “I lost my temper with her about this. Emma dismissed me, calling me unreasonable, stupid, and insisting it’s not a big deal. This is literally the only request I’ve ever made of her: not to post pictures of my kids. The main issue is that Emma doesn’t filter her friends list (she has over 6,000 friends) and her profile isn’t private at all. Although we’re not friends on Facebook (she blocked me after I asked her to remove the posts with my kids), she later unblocked me, so now I can see everything she posts (even though we’re still not Facebook friends and her content is visible to everyone).”
The woman expressed her desperation about the situation, admitting, “I recently called Emma and requested that she refrain from approaching my kids. Mike was furious upon learning that I forbade his wife from communicating with our children. However, I feel it’s necessary to protect my kids from Emma’s casual behavior. I might be the worst person on Earth with the way I reacted, but I don’t feel it was over the line. Mike keeps defending her actions. Am I being unreasonable? If her page were private and she was truly aware of her friends’ list, I don’t think I would mind as much. However, it’s not, and she clearly doesn’t care who sees what she’s posting.”
Sarah is undeniably facing a challenging situation, and prioritizing child safety is crucial. We would recommend trying to calmly communicate with her ex-husband and his new partner, emphasizing the importance of respecting boundaries and ensuring the safety and privacy of the children. Finding common ground would be essential, focusing on mutual understanding and compromise for the well-being of the children involved.
What would you do if you were in her shoes? Did you quickly find common ground with your ex’s new partner if you were in a similar situation? Leave your answers in the comments section.
And here’s yet another concerned mom, deeply worried because her ex-husband’s new girlfriend went too far in relationship with their daughter.
