When her husband asked her to be a stay-at-home mom, the woman made a bold request: half of his company. She shared her story online, and it sparked a lot of conversation. Let’s look at their unique marriage deal and how it might change their relationship in the future.
Her husband asked her to be a stay-at-home mom.
My husband and I have been married for 6 years, and we have 2 kids with another on the way. He said he wanted me to stop working and be a housewife. At first, I was really upset, but he explained that it would be better for our family since he can afford a good life for us.
After a few weeks, I told him I would agree, but only if I get half of his company. The look on his face was priceless. He was shocked but said okay.
I explained that if I stay home, I’ll have a harder time finding a good job if we ever divorce. I’d have fewer skills, while he’d keep making more money, so I wanted half of the company.
If we never divorce, it wouldn’t matter, but if we do, it would be the cost of me staying home and raising our kids so he could be less stressed (he said he’d feel better knowing they were with me instead of in daycare or with nannies).
How her friends reacted.
When I told my friends, they called me selfish. My best friend was very angry and said it was disgusting. So now I’m a bit surprised.
People online supported her.
- You shouldn’t bend on this. You have as much a right to a secure financial future as he does. If he doesn’t do this, he can’t afford you, or he is looking to create a power imbalance that puts you at a disadvantage.
In future, keep your marital business to yourself. Your friends don’t get a vote.
- To me, this sounds reasonable for exactly the reasons you’ve given. You don’t want to be the bitter woman finding out in her 50s that waiting tables is her only option because her professional career skills have passed their due date, and your husband has moved on. You don’t want to be trapped in a loveless or even toxic marriage because you’re financially dependent.
- I’m a man and I see nothing wrong with your request, you’re just protecting yourself and your future in case things go south. You have every right to have financial security.