Being a single mom is hard because you have to be both a mom and a dad. Single moms usually have many struggles and lots of responsibilities. Today, we’re talking about a 25-year-old woman who has been very strong as a single mom. But now, she’s very worried because her friends are interfering with her life. Here is her story.
She has been raising her son alone without complaining.
Andrea told us her story in a simple, honest letter. She’s in a tough situation and needs advice and support.
“I’m 25 and a single mom to my 4-year-old son, Olaf. His dad left when he was just 2 days old, and we’ve never heard from him since. He’s never paid child support, and I’ve never relied on him for money. My parents died in a car accident three years ago, and I don’t talk to the rest of my family because they judge me and treat me badly.
I had to leave college and have worked different jobs to support us. We’re not poor, but we don’t have many things, and we currently rent a one-bedroom apartment. While our life isn’t perfect, I hope to improve our situation in the coming years and maybe even buy a house. For now, we make do with what we have.
I’ve raised Olaf to know that I’ll always do my best for him. We may not have much, and he doesn’t always get the newest toys or clothes, but we have each other, and we are very close.”
Andrea added, “My son has never gone without a birthday or Christmas present, and I always try to get him at least some of the things he dreams of. While his friends may have more, Olaf has never been jealous. Instead, he takes good care of what he has and rarely breaks his things. He’s a kind and generous boy who loves to share with other kids.
“Last year, we visited a village where a distant relative of mine lives. He invited us unexpectedly, and since he’s always been nice to us, I agreed. It was also a good chance for Olaf to see a new place. While we were there, Olaf met a girl named Rosa. They played a lot, and Olaf visited her house. I had met Rosa’s parents, Helen and Paul, a few times before, and they seemed very nice and supportive. We had a lot in common, and I liked spending time with them. Olaf always had fun at their house with Rosa. Before we left, Helen suggested we exchange numbers, and they started messaging and calling me often.”
Andrea continued, “Helen is a stay-at-home mom and once offered to take care of Olaf for a whole week. I wasn’t sure about it, but she was very kind and insisted. So, I brought him back to the village. My son had a wonderful time with them and their daughter. They gave him many presents during his stay, which made me a bit uncomfortable, but I thought they were just being kind. I didn’t say anything because I was so grateful for the joy they brought to Olaf’s life.”
Andrea continued, “Helen and Paul started inviting Olaf over more and more. Once, they even suggested he stay with them for a whole month so I could focus on work. This made me uncomfortable because they were paying so much attention to Olaf. I told them I could never repay them, but they insisted they loved having him around and often said he felt like their own child.
Eventually, I confronted them about their insistence on having Olaf so much. Their response shocked me. They admitted they always dreamed of having a big family with many kids and suggested that Olaf could stay with them permanently. They assured me I could still see him, but they would take over his care. What I thought was a joke turned out to be their serious plan, leaving me completely stunned.”
She was stunned when the couple finally revealed their true intentions.
Andrea wrote, “When I asked them what they meant by keeping Olaf for a long time, they went silent, and I felt a wave of dread. They then began explaining legal procedures for making them Olaf’s caregivers, assuring me they would encourage him to still call me ‘mother.’ They urged me to think about what was best for Olaf. I was horrified and told them it was sick.”
She continued, “I quickly grabbed Olaf and left. I blocked their numbers immediately. My son doesn’t understand what’s going on and keeps asking why we don’t visit them anymore. He’s struggling and misses them and Rosa a lot. But now I know their true intentions, and it terrifies me. I don’t want Olaf going back there. Should we move away from this city? Or should I try to reach an agreement with them that they’ll never bring this up again and allow Olaf to see Rosa only under my supervision? What should I do?”